Many curious individuals are looking to explore their Domination/submission (D/s) fantasies through video chat with a real-life Dominatrix. It can be a thrilling and even deeply meaningful experience; however, both the Domme and the sub need to understand the different stages of the session and how to transition between them.
There are two main stages of a typical dominatrix video chat session: the negotiation stage and the play stage. The negotiation stage is when the Domme and the sub discuss the parameters and boundaries of the session: What topics will be discussed, what topics are off-limits, the cost of the session, timings, safe words, etc. Even if it is a reoccurring session, it is important to touch base at the beginning to set the tone and check in on both the Domme and sub’s emotional state.
The play stage is when the Domme and the sub work together to explore their Dominant/submissive dynamic. This means that the Domme takes an active role in exploring the sub’s D/s fantasies and pushing the boundaries in a respectful way. Depending on the intensity of the session, the play stage can range from lighthearted banter and role-play, to heavier scenes involving physical or psychological pain. During this stage, it is important for the Domme to be especially sensitive to the sub’s body language and feedback to ensure a safe and consensual experience.
When the session comes to an end, it is important to allow for a few minutes of re-adjustment. During this time, the Domme can provide verbal aftercare to the sub to help them reintegrate back into their environment and assist in any processing that needs to be done.
Transitioning between the negotiation stage and the play stage of the session can be simple and straightforward as long as both parties are on the same page. It is important for the Domme to be clear and confident when setting the tone and boundaries of the session. To ensure that both parties are satisfied afterwards, the Domme should also regularly check in with the sub during the play stage to make sure they are comfortable. There is no one-size-fits-all approach; every session will be unique and tailored to the chemistry between the Domme and the sub. See page.
Can clients request specific tasks from the dominatrix on findom websites?
Yes, clients can request specific tasks from a dominatrix on findom websites. This is a common practice amongst members of the findom community and is widely accepted with open arms from the providers.
Dominatrixes are very skilled and experienced in what they do, and sometimes a client’s request could prove to be a difficult task for them. Certain tasks may require tools or items that the dominatrix does not have access to, so it is important to carefully consider the request before submitting it.
However, the majority of the time, the dominatrix is more than happy to discuss requests from clients and go above and beyond to make sure the task is accomplished successfully. This could range from something as simple as a task like ‘buy me something’ to more intricate tasks like ‘engage in a role-play scenario’ or ‘act out a scene’.
For specific tasks, members can discuss their ideas thoroughly with the dominatrix to make sure that both parties are on the same page. Depending on the severity and intensity of the task being requested, certain preparations may need to be made, such as safety protocols or equipment. That being said, Dominatrixes are usually very good at talking through the client’s requests and can often suggest some fantastic ideas.
That said, it is important to note that all Dominatrixes, just like any other professional, will have their boundaries and limits. Therefore, it is important to respect those lines, especially since certain requests can be seen as oppressive. Clients should keep this in mind before asking for anything and should not make any unreasonable requests.
Overall, it is possible for clients to request specific tasks from a dominatrix on findom websites. Dominatrixes are usually very good at discussing requests with open communication and understanding, and by respecting their boundaries, clients can ensure they have a safe and pleasurable experience with the dominatrix.